Ever since I started this blog I’ve been struggling with the decision of whether or not I should “go public” to people I actually know. The reason why I haven’t is that some of the stuff I write on here is very personal, and I didn’t want to hurt or embarrass anybody with the things I write about, particularly my almost-but-not-quite ex-husband.
As a result, I’ve been walking this weird tightrope. Like, my instagram name is notchangingit, but I don’t have a link to this site on my instagram profile, because my instagram posts to my facebook and I don’t want my facebook friends to know about the blog. But then my twitter name is also notchangingit, and that account DOES have a link to my site. So really, all someone on Facebook would have to do is google “notchangingit” and I’d be “caught.” Does anyone care that much? Probably not, but it’s still a concern for me.
It’s annoying because I have a lot of facebook friends, and by not posting my blog to facebook I am missing out on a huge potential audience right there. I have a facebook page for this site, but I haven’t done anything with it because I don’t want anyone I know to find out about it! I don’t want my friends to “like” it, because then it would show up in their newsfeeds and mutual friends would see it. And I can’t even “like” other blogs on facebook, because everything shows up in the newsfeed and can all be tracked back to this site!
It has just become wayyy too complicated!
It all came to a head on Wednesday when I discovered WordAds, WordPress’s new advertising thing. Advertising on this site wasn’t something I was really looking to do (I’m an artist, man), but I get a fair amount hits to this site because of my recipes. If I can somehow monetize that, then why not? This led to think once again about the audience I’m missing out on by not going public on Facebook.
So yesterday morning I finally realized (with Tiffany’s help) that the best thing for me to do is create another blog. That blog would contain the recipes, the vacation pics, the nails, and all the other superficial shit that I would be happy to share with the world. This blog would contain the dating stories and all the other personal things. That blog would be a way for me to promote and market myself, while this blog would provide the creative outlet that I need. Best of both worlds.
So yeah, that’s my new plan. I know it’s going to be a lot of work trying to maintain two blogs, but overall I feel pretty happy with the decision. Like I’m moving forward.